Thursday, August 28, 2008
Obama? Unsure? Then Pray About It!
Wednesday, August 27, 2008
Another Point Of View
Once in a while someone comes along to challenge all you have ever thought you believed! What a disguised blessing that can turn out to be!
When I told my pastor the other day that I was writing a book intended to inspire young gay and lesbian people to seek a spiritual connection, her immediate retort was "Great! So who is helping to keep your message real?" That person is pictured above, my cousin and dear friend, Shawn Stout.
It is true that in order to share your beliefs with others you have to be convinced of their validity. Beliefs and values are nothing if they are not authentic and real, if they are not proven in your experience. Hypocrisy is rampant in our culture as people hide who they really are in order to support an image. I have spent the majority of my life hiding the truth about me from various parties important to my life, most notably my parents and my daughter. It seemed easier to put on a false front than to live the truth about myself with honesty.
Shawn has given me the greatest of gifts, something that I can never repay. He has given me myself! As I have opened up and listened to him; as I have struggled with perceived rejection and distance; as I have given time, hope, support and encouragement - I have learned about love. I have learned that unconditional love has always been there for me from my family - I was just too fearful to accept it. I have learned that acceptance was mine from the beginning - I was just afraid to embrace it. I learned these things by not giving up, by believing in Shawn when I could not believe in myself. By accepting his weaknesses without judgement even while I was unable to accept my own, and by examining and reclaiming my own spiritual faith while sharing openly without shame. This process has liberated and set me free.
The end result has been astounding. My relationship with my family, especially my mum, dad and brother has never been more satisfying. The connection I have with my daughter is now on par with my dreams! I am a grateful and happy man. The key to all of this has been the chance that I have had to walk some miles in another's shoes! My perspective has been enlarged, I have seen my life from another point of view, I am truly on purpose!
It is said so often that we grow through adversity. If this relationship has been adversity then I say bring it on again! Yes there have been sacrifices and cost, but the growth that Shawn and I have experienced in our lives is worth more than anything, absolutely anything! I do not wish to consider where I might be today if Shawn had not come into my life. Things may happen for a reason, but it takes being aware of that fact for any value to come out of it! I am now richer in spirit than at any time in my life. I am back on track and I can't wait for tomorrow! Thanks to you all for walking beside me through these days!
Love and Peace - Geoff
Tuesday, August 26, 2008
The Politics Of Love

Friday, August 22, 2008
Family First
Haley seems to grasp the concept that Hannah is my daughter as well as her mother - no small accomplishment for someone who has not yet turned three! It is the time that Hannah was about Haley's age that keeps coming up for me . . . for it was then that I began my torturous exit from our home and, for a time, from her daily life. Thanks to grace I get another chance, though it would be many years and many deposits into her 'emotional bank account' (as defined by Stephen Covey in his book 'The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People') until Hannah and I could know again what Haley and I know now. Today Hannah is willing to trust me in building a relationship with her own daughter and I am in awe!
Since July, Haley Grace has been in Sarasota! Her family moved back here from rural Georgia, and what they lost in small town charm and community they have gained in grandparents! Our family is the single most influential life connection that we will ever have. Not that it's always a good thing - it just is! Most of the internal struggles that we go through - of identity, value, confidence, image and purpose - are full of familial fuel, energy that can be simultaneously positive and negative.
Grace, that positive energy that wells up from roots firmly connected to the source of unconditional love that is the essence of the universe, is at work in my life. It has restored my soul and leads me on paths of authentic living. It allows me unfettered connection to the lives of my daughter and her child. Faith that we, as humankind, are connected to one another and all that is has been the greatest comfort and inspiration to me as I face the challenges of living my life with honesty in the 21st Century.
Faith is no good unless it is your own. It cannot be adopted from another or assimilated by osmosis or taught with a ruler! It has to be personally experienced if it is to provide strength in times of trial, failure and defeat. Defined as 'the evidence of things unseen' it is , to me, the foundation on which I build the rest of my life. I know that I am not alone. I know that my journey of life is inextricably bound up with the journeys of others and for that awareness, as for the rest of my present circumstances, I am exceedingly thankful!
Will I spoil Haley Grace? Impossible! Genuine, unconditional love will put up with anything, always believe the best and never give up! It will not be selfish or judgemental. It will be full of grace and it will always put others - we are all one family - first!
I am so grateful for the opportunity to be an enduring influence in the life of Haley Grace! May we always be thankful for those that come into our lives and may we give grace as much, and more, as we are aware of it being given to us!
Love and Peace - Geoff
Thursday, August 21, 2008
Something Good is About to Happen!
Today I am published! With one inspirational lesson from my author brother Derek - pictured on the left - I became a blogger and so a published author myself! Wow! I am on the right of the picture. My brother is one special guy. One very authentic guy. I haven't always felt that way, but - thank God - I have grown. Now I can truly appreciate who he has become and I now know he respects and appreciates me. It's not about the accomplishments in our lives that has brought this mutual love and respect, it is about our honesty. That it has taken us to our midlife to come to these terms and 'get real' with each other is both laudable and sad. Laudable because we have made it! Sad, perhaps, because we have missed much of the true grit of each other's journeys. The reality is that many families fail to ever arrive at the position that we find ourselves in today. Many individuals fail to grow, so I am one grateful guy!
The man in the middle is our Dad. He just turned 80 (really!) and is the reason that we are together in this picture - literally in every sense. We are standing on the bow of an ocean liner in the Bay of Alaska. Time with one another was even more valuable than the magnificent scenery we encountered on this full-family vacation! Time and yes, honesty, are keys to building relationships that can weather the storms of life.
As for me, at the beginning of a new journey that I will be sharing with you, I am glad I am who I am, and I am grateful that my family is too!
Love and Peace - Geoff
