Thursday, August 28, 2008

Obama? Unsure? Then Pray About It!


My daughter, Hannah, has been a Republican for most of her life. This was her milieu, surrounded by good people who thought that was the Christian thing to be. While a political science student at a Christian University she experienced the issues from a different point of view and consequently registered as an Independent. Today she is a Democrat! Not for any of the little reasons, but for the big ones! The issues that have to do with real Christian values!

I was thrilled tonight by the spectacle at Mile High Stadium in Denver. Not only did Barack Obama inspire an unprecedented convention crowd of 84,000 people. He inspired my daughter, he inspired her mother, he inspired me, and he inspired a nation!

As people of faith we must seek true guidance that is not limited by human opinion or party line. We must pray that our country elects the leader that will be right for America and right for the world! We must pray that we have the courage and the insight to vote according to who is meant to be the one to lead this country forward through the difficult days, at home and abroad, that lie ahead.

Tonight we heard a speech from a man who feels called to be that leader, a man who is willing to risk himself and his family to serve the greater good, a man of faith, a man who has proven that he can cross party lines and inspire a nation to work together to bring change. He believes in the values that every American holds dear. Let's abandon our soapboxes and take a moment to look at this historic moment from a new perspective. May we all commit to work together, hand in hand, to recreate the America that was the dream of those who have given their lives to protect it. Still not convinced? Then pray about it my friend! And remember to listen for an answer!
May God Bless America and Shed His Grace on Thee!

Love and Peace - Geoff


Wednesday, August 27, 2008

Another Point Of View

Once in a while someone comes along to challenge all you have ever thought you believed! What a disguised blessing that can turn out to be!

When I told my pastor the other day that I was writing a book intended to inspire young gay and lesbian people to seek a spiritual connection, her immediate retort was "Great! So who is helping to keep your message real?" That person is pictured above, my cousin and dear friend, Shawn Stout.

It is true that in order to share your beliefs with others you have to be convinced of their validity. Beliefs and values are nothing if they are not authentic and real, if they are not proven in your experience. Hypocrisy is rampant in our culture as people hide who they really are in order to support an image. I have spent the majority of my life hiding the truth about me from various parties important to my life, most notably my parents and my daughter. It seemed easier to put on a false front than to live the truth about myself with honesty.

Shawn has given me the greatest of gifts, something that I can never repay. He has given me myself! As I have opened up and listened to him; as I have struggled with perceived rejection and distance; as I have given time, hope, support and encouragement - I have learned about love. I have learned that unconditional love has always been there for me from my family - I was just too fearful to accept it. I have learned that acceptance was mine from the beginning - I was just afraid to embrace it. I learned these things by not giving up, by believing in Shawn when I could not believe in myself. By accepting his weaknesses without judgement even while I was unable to accept my own, and by examining and reclaiming my own spiritual faith while sharing openly without shame. This process has liberated and set me free.

The end result has been astounding. My relationship with my family, especially my mum, dad and brother has never been more satisfying. The connection I have with my daughter is now on par with my dreams! I am a grateful and happy man. The key to all of this has been the chance that I have had to walk some miles in another's shoes! My perspective has been enlarged, I have seen my life from another point of view, I am truly on purpose!

It is said so often that we grow through adversity. If this relationship has been adversity then I say bring it on again! Yes there have been sacrifices and cost, but the growth that Shawn and I have experienced in our lives is worth more than anything, absolutely anything! I do not wish to consider where I might be today if Shawn had not come into my life. Things may happen for a reason, but it takes being aware of that fact for any value to come out of it! I am now richer in spirit than at any time in my life. I am back on track and I can't wait for tomorrow! Thanks to you all for walking beside me through these days!

Love and Peace - Geoff




Tuesday, August 26, 2008

The Politics Of Love


The Summer Olympic Games in Beijing have come to an end and so has the amazing display of global unity! Reality is that we are still very divided along political and geographical lines, not to mention social and economic ones! The heartwarming experiences of the last two weeks though serve to remind us all that we are indeed one global family.

One of the most interesting sidebars from NBC's pundits recounted the story of an American ping pong player , Glenn Cowan, who broke the rules at a World Championship in Japan in 1971 and found himself alone with the Communist Chinese team, on the wrong bus to the stadium! Thanks to the Chinese penchant for hospitality, forbidden conversations took place leading to gift exchanges, press coverage and ultimately an invitation to play ping pong in China issued on the instruction of Chairman Mao himself! This action of a maverick US ping pong player directly led to the restoration of relationship between the US and China after more than 20 years of complete international isolation! Because of this single exchange the possibility of a Beijing Olympic Games became a reality!

J K Rowling, author of the Harry Potter books writes this: "One of the many things I learned studying classics at the age of 18, in search of something I could not then define, was this, written by the Greek author Plutarch: 'What we achieve inwardly will change outer reality.' This astonishing statement expresses, in part, our inescapable connection with the outside world, the fact that we touch other people's lives simply by existing. We do not need magic to change the world. We carry all the power we need inside ourselves already!"

We now find ourselves in the midst of a momentous struggle to elect a new President of the US. No matter what your political viewpoint and background, think of politics as the vehicle by which the values of love and forgiveness, healing and charity are dispensed to our nation and the world. Unless we elect politicians that truly believe that we are a global family. Unless we work with all our might to share the wealth and privilege that many in the West enjoy. Unless we put love and forgiveness first in our dealings with one another both here and abroad then we can just forget about a bright and safe future for our children and grandchildren. Love is the only way, the right way, the way forward. May we set aside religion, partisan politics and self serving agendas and take the risk of putting ourselves out there to change the world - one person at a time. Thinking globally, and acting locally, let us reach out with love, compassion and forgiveness to our friends, family and neighbors - those we know and those we don't. We are all one family, one nation and one world!

A Jewish leader moved to a Midwestern town and soon began to be harassed by a physically handicapped KKK Grand Dragon. The threats were hateful and violent. After reminding the perpetrator that his Nazi idols went after physical disabilities even before they began ethnic cleansing, he began to extend love and compassion in response to the continual onslaught of hate. After some tense and fearful times for his family the Jew invited the Clansman into his home when he became too ill to care for himself. He stayed there until his death, embracing his new brother and renouncing hatred. This one man was able to effect a change of heart of one most would consider beyond redemption! Love won out!

Let us, as individuals, families, cities and nations extend ourselves with love and tap into the essence of the universe and the one way to sure success - even though the cost may be great! Robert Kennedy said: "Each time a person stands up for an ideal, or acts to improve the lot of others — he sends forth a tiny ripple of hope. And crossing each other from a million different centers of energy and daring, those ripples build a current that can sweep down the mightiest walls of oppression and resistance."

Let us join the fight and change the world - one ripple of love at a time!!

Love and Peace - Geoff

Friday, August 22, 2008

Family First

Today I met my granddaughter at the public library. We both love books! This picture of her, taken at 6 months, has graced my laptop as wallpaper for the past two years. She is aptly named Haley Grace. It is because of grace that I even know her. Grace - that amazing meld of unconditional love and uncompromised forgiveness - has been a key force in my life, grace both given and received! To hear the spontaneous and unsolicited words: "I love you Pop-pop", as she cuddled up next to me at lunch, really brought that home!

Haley seems to grasp the concept that Hannah is my daughter as well as her mother - no small accomplishment for someone who has not yet turned three! It is the time that Hannah was about Haley's age that keeps coming up for me . . . for it was then that I began my torturous exit from our home and, for a time, from her daily life. Thanks to grace I get another chance, though it would be many years and many deposits into her 'emotional bank account' (as defined by Stephen Covey in his book 'The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People') until Hannah and I could know again what Haley and I know now. Today Hannah is willing to trust me in building a relationship with her own daughter and I am in awe!

Since July, Haley Grace has been in Sarasota! Her family moved back here from rural Georgia, and what they lost in small town charm and community they have gained in grandparents! Our family is the single most influential life connection that we will ever have. Not that it's always a good thing - it just is! Most of the internal struggles that we go through - of identity, value, confidence, image and purpose - are full of familial fuel, energy that can be simultaneously positive and negative.

Grace, that positive energy that wells up from roots firmly connected to the source of unconditional love that is the essence of the universe, is at work in my life. It has restored my soul and leads me on paths of authentic living. It allows me unfettered connection to the lives of my daughter and her child. Faith that we, as humankind, are connected to one another and all that is has been the greatest comfort and inspiration to me as I face the challenges of living my life with honesty in the 21st Century.

Faith is no good unless it is your own. It cannot be adopted from another or assimilated by osmosis or taught with a ruler! It has to be personally experienced if it is to provide strength in times of trial, failure and defeat. Defined as 'the evidence of things unseen' it is , to me, the foundation on which I build the rest of my life. I know that I am not alone. I know that my journey of life is inextricably bound up with the journeys of others and for that awareness, as for the rest of my present circumstances, I am exceedingly thankful!

Will I spoil Haley Grace? Impossible! Genuine, unconditional love will put up with anything, always believe the best and never give up! It will not be selfish or judgemental. It will be full of grace and it will always put others - we are all one family - first!

I am so grateful for the opportunity to be an enduring influence in the life of Haley Grace! May we always be thankful for those that come into our lives and may we give grace as much, and more, as we are aware of it being given to us!

Love and Peace - Geoff

Thursday, August 21, 2008

Something Good is About to Happen!

Today I am published! With one inspirational lesson from my author brother Derek - pictured on the left - I became a blogger and so a published author myself! Wow! I am on the right of the picture.

My brother is one special guy. One very authentic guy. I haven't always felt that way, but - thank God - I have grown. Now I can truly appreciate who he has become and I now know he respects and appreciates me. It's not about the accomplishments in our lives that has brought this mutual love and respect, it is about our honesty. That it has taken us to our midlife to come to these terms and 'get real' with each other is both laudable and sad. Laudable because we have made it! Sad, perhaps, because we have missed much of the true grit of each other's journeys. The reality is that many families fail to ever arrive at the position that we find ourselves in today. Many individuals fail to grow, so I am one grateful guy!

The man in the middle is our Dad. He just turned 80 (really!) and is the reason that we are together in this picture - literally in every sense. We are standing on the bow of an ocean liner in the Bay of Alaska. Time with one another was even more valuable than the magnificent scenery we encountered on this full-family vacation! Time and yes, honesty, are keys to building relationships that can weather the storms of life.

As for me, at the beginning of a new journey that I will be sharing with you, I am glad I am who I am, and I am grateful that my family is too!

Love and Peace - Geoff